I've been suspicious of my wife for several months. She at times has made excuses to not have sex for various reasons. Once supposedly spent the night at a friend's house because she was too tipsy to drive home. That next morning was a Saturday. She walked in close to noontime. She went directly to the bathroom and got a shower then straight to bed. Said she was hungover, I didn't smell any alcohol on her. What I did smell on her clothes now in the hamper was a man's cologne. Ashamed and embarrassed to say this I examined her panties. There was a lot going on there. I had two DNA tests done and it was s#### from another man.. I didn't know that her lover was a widower friend of ours. I was told this by the man's adult daughter months later We're still together and working it out. Apparently he was doing a lot of drugs and drinking. Checked into a rehab. Got a phone call on the landline. She answered, it was him. She didn't recognize the voice. She said that it was for me.