What the actual h### happened to her? How does someone go from being your closest friend, your ride-or-die, the person who stood by you through everything, to this absolute stranger who’s rude, judgmental, and completely unrecognizable? It’s like she’s been replaced by someone you don’t even know, and it’s gut-wrenching. You’ve been there for her through hell—through abusive relationships, through endless crying phone calls, through all the chaos—and now she’s just…this. Cold, dismissive, spewing hateful garbage, and acting like the friendship you’ve built over decades doesn’t even matter. It’s infuriating.
And the worst part? You still care. You still want to salvage some piece of the friendship you had, even though she’s done nothing to deserve it. Because she’s your oldest friend, and that history makes it so d### hard to let go. But honestly, what’s left to hold onto? The person she used to be is gone, and what’s left is someone who doesn’t respect you, doesn’t value you, and doesn’t even seem to care about the damage she’s doing to herself and everyone around her.
It’s not fair. You deserve better than this. You deserve friends who lift you up, who reciprocate the love and care you give, who don’t make you feel like you’re wasting your time and energy on someone who doesn’t even want to meet you halfway. And yeah, it’s hard to let go, but at some point, you have to ask yourself—how much more of this can you take? How much more of her negativity, her dismissiveness, her refusal to be the friend you need? It’s okay to mourn the friendship you had, but it’s also okay to protect your own peace and walk away if that’s what you need.
You’ve got great friends who aren’t a#######. Hold onto them. Lean into the relationships that actually make you feel good about yourself. And if you do decide to see her while she’s visiting, do it on your terms. Don’t let her guilt or manipulate you into anything. You’ve done more than enough for her, and it’s time to prioritize yourself.