I'm probably going to stay mad at my wife for cancelling my party behind my back back in 2018 for as long as I live.

The Holiday season that year was a crappy one for me. Wife and I had conflicting work schedules which resulted in us being too busy to do stuff we always do. No NYC trip, no light shows, no trip to the Christmas village, no Santa pictures.

We did have a Christmas party planned, and given how the season was going, that was my hope to salvage the season. Normally, there's a big affair. My wife and I were equal hosts, and we had a baking contest, my famous cheez-it ranch chicken nuggets (a hit in any league), a winter sangria in a drink fountain, and a plethora of desserts.

We sent all our invitations via Facebook as well as all updates from us as well as our guests (who brought desserts for us to vote on and they could win a prize basket).

However, that didn't happen. The day before the party (Friday the 21st), I got off work early. I figured I would surprise my wife by completing the desserts that she didn't get to yet and then upload the pics on the party invite page.

When I go to upload, I get an error. "Something went wrong. Please try again later."

I refresh the page. It says "EVENT CANCELLED" and I see a post that my wife posted saying

"There was an unexpected family tragedy. I have to cancel the party. So sorry. Merry Christmas!"

The "unexpected" family tragedy was my wife's sister's husband's father passing away. He was diagnosed with Stage IV liver cancer that June and was put on hospice about 2-3 weeks prior to him passing. This death was not "unexpected." He, his wife and his daughter (who lived with him) weren't showing up anyway. An "unexpected" family tragedy would be my 9 year old nephew getting run over by a mack truck. Not a man on hospice who died when we knew it was a matter of time.

20-30 people planned on showing up to the party, this death realistically affected 5 of them.

Also, you notice she said "I" had to cancel the party. I'm the co-host and I was the last person to find out that my own party got cancelled. I should have had a say in whether or not the party continued.

When I confronted my wife about it, she says "it was the right thing to do out of respect."

Well, gee, it sure wasn't respectful to your co-host, whose party you pulled from underneath him.

And to this day, she has never once apologized or taken an ounce of accountability for it. It was so disrespectful. No "I'm sorry," no "I made a mistake," none of that.

I know she didn't intend to take the party away from me with malicious intent, and I understand the circumstances, but it was still disrespectful to me. I would not be given that benefit of the doubt to examine intent. IF I did that, people would say I should have consulted her. Nobody ever says she should have consulted me. She just went behind my back to pull my party from underneath me.

Now, onto the retorts to the responses from the smoothbrains that I know are gonna happen:

"sOmEoNe DiEd." Someone dies every day. Matter of fact, 170,000 people die each day.

"gEt ThErApY." Get f#####.

"i HoPe YoUr WiFe LeAvEs YoU, yOuR pOoR wIfE." I hope you get hand food and mouth disease.

"LeT iT gO." I'm not Elsa.

"iT wAs JuSt A pArTy." Not the point.

"iT's My PaRtY aNd I'lL cRy If I wAnT to." YOU WOULD CRY TOO IF IT HAPPENED TO YOU!