What the actual h### happened to her? How does someone go from being your closest friend, your ride-or-die, the person who stood by you through everything, to this absolute stranger whoâs rude, judgmental, and completely unrecognizable? Itâs like sheâs been replaced by someone you donât even know, and itâs gut-wrenching. Youâve been there for her through hellâthrough abusive relationships, through endless crying phone calls, through all the chaosâand now sheâs justâŚthis. Cold, dismissive, spewing hateful garbage, and acting like the friendship youâve built over decades doesnât even matter. Itâs infuriating.
And the worst part? You still care. You still want to salvage some piece of the friendship you had, even though sheâs done nothing to deserve it. Because sheâs your oldest friend, and that history makes it so d### hard to let go. But honestly, whatâs left to hold onto? The person she used to be is gone, and whatâs left is someone who doesnât respect you, doesnât value you, and doesnât even seem to care about the damage sheâs doing to herself and everyone around her.
Itâs not fair. You deserve better than this. You deserve friends who lift you up, who reciprocate the love and care you give, who donât make you feel like youâre wasting your time and energy on someone who doesnât even want to meet you halfway. And yeah, itâs hard to let go, but at some point, you have to ask yourselfâhow much more of this can you take? How much more of her negativity, her dismissiveness, her refusal to be the friend you need? Itâs okay to mourn the friendship you had, but itâs also okay to protect your own peace and walk away if thatâs what you need.
Youâve got great friends who arenât a#######. Hold onto them. Lean into the relationships that actually make you feel good about yourself. And if you do decide to see her while sheâs visiting, do it on your terms. Donât let her guilt or manipulate you into anything. Youâve done more than enough for her, and itâs time to prioritize yourself.