To the two ranters about their family, this is just summarizing instead of responding to two separate posts, it just made my decision about permanently staying away from all of my family after they disowned me at 20 a painful, yet excellent decision. Visiting back in terms of a couple of years, only a few times because it was as if I never left with the hate and glares from them, it was important to focus on reality and me and though they're dead of natural causes, I have no regrets of this.